Crazy Little Thing Called Love

August 28, 2014 by LP 4 Comments

What is the craziest thing you did for love? Ask this question randomly and you’ll most likely get a stifled laugh. I’ve been asking this question the whole day. You see, this morning, I bore witness to something crazy my friend did when he got back together with a partner after being kicked out of the house (with no place to go) and being bashed in cyberspace. This morning’s events got me thinking how people can do really crazy (and at the time, in my opinion, really stupid) things “for love” and it got me curious. Okay, very curious.

I’ve asked friends, colleagues, relatives, ex-lovers, couples, acquaintances – through all forms of social media possible, and well, over lunch – just for me to get different perspectives on the amount of crazy people are willing to go through or put up with or just do in the name of love. Based from the answers I got, I can say that you do crazy things in all stages of a relationship (official or otherwise) – during the early stages of romance, throughout the ‘life cycle’ of a relationship, and finally when chapters have ended and ties are broken.

Here are some of the craziest things people did (or still do) for love:

 

Ah, the feeling of falling in love – the million little butterflies in your tummy that make your heat beat like crazy. It’s that stage where you feel like you can do anything for someone, like this guy who stayed at a coffee shop for 9 hours, while waiting for her shift to end (I wonder how much caffeine he had), because let’s face it, we usually go out of our way to do something for someone we like. But some people literally go out of their way, like this girl who ditched her friends during a movie to drive from Alabang to Quezon City like a madman just to see this guy.

They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. And oh boy, how people went crazy with food! Like this guy based in Laguna and who commuted all the way to PGH just to bring her her favorite siopao (complete with drinks and a change of clothes). And then this girl who lied about her cooking skills, saying she specializes in cooking his favorite sinigang when she doesn’t even know half of the ingredients in the dish (thankfully, the first attempt was a success and the guy liked it)!

And of course, we’ve all had our share of campus crazy: like doing his entire thesis manuscript just so he can graduate, getting a drastic makeover, following him around campus, paying half of his apartment’s rent, lending a huge amount of money just so he can pursue his dreams of modeling, and even waking up at 3am every Sunday (for four Sundays) just to be a runner for his bar exams. I guess you didn’t really learn everything in kindergarten after all.

 

Love can change you, in ways you never thought would be possible. It can transform your good crazy to a ‘deep’ crazy, for lack of a better word. When you fall deeper in love, or as the relationship progresses, you get to know yourself – how you really love, and how far you’re willing to go to keep that love and to stay in love. Would you consider giving up a career in medicine, like this girl I know? If you’re in a relationship lasting more than 5 years, would you also fight for it even if your partner is in love with someone else? It’s true that people deal with relationship problems differently – some would choose to stay even in an abusive relationship in hopes of change, others will simply ignore everything just to protect the long years of emotional investment. While others continue to fight for the love they think is right, others will content themselves being the third party. After all, all is fair in love and war.

When you love someone, you don’t really care what other people say or think. Does it matter that the girl you love has a kid and is still married? No. You accept and love her anyway. Does it matter if she lives halfway across the world? No – you travel 10,000 miles to be with her. You might even move across the ocean. Does it matter if he asks you for money? No. You will gladly send him money and even pay for his condo down payment. Does it matter if you have to fork up money for your weekend getaway? No. You will even pay for your entire Boracay trip – parasailing and island hopping, included. Does it matter if, after a bad breakup, he tells your mom that you’re gay? No. You still get back together with him.

I guess when you love someone, these questions won’t really matter. Or maybe they do, but you just don’t give a damn.

 

Not all relationships are meant to last, and this is the painful truth most of us had come to terms with. For some people, though, the end of a relationship usually triggers a phase of insanity. And while they don’t really define a person, these lapses of judgment more or less define how bad the breakup was, or how much love was lost. Take this girl, who, after the end of a 7-year long relationship with a high school sweetheart moved heaven and earth (including across-the-campus marathons, chasing the guy) just to ask for another chance. Or this brilliant girl who had to beg for attention and forgiveness at four o’clock in the morning (literally on her knees and in tears, only to be ignored for an hour or so). Or this guy who, after being cheated by his boyfriend, even helped him pack his things and bring him home.

While some relationships end, some are not even meant to begin. No matter how hard you try to convince yourself that there might be a chance, there comes a point when you just have to accept and move on. Also? Waiting in a parked car outside the hospital where he works, on a Friday night (until early Saturday morning), just to get a glimpse of him – this one takes the cake.

We have all done crazy things in the name of love – no matter whose perspective. Because at the end of the day, it’s who we love that really matter.

So, what’s the craziest thing you did for love? : )